[UPDATE] Well, as some of you may know. I may have to revise this blog. Because I am in a relationship now and I may have to change my tune. LOL!
[UPDATE 2] What do you know, I got marred on July 4th 2008! Let’s just say I understand now.
You know, when I was in my twenties, I could call up ANY of my friends and say something like, “Hey wanna go check out that new movie?” One of maybe 5 would say yes. Usually I could get a quorum of at least 3. Most of my friends were women about the same age as myself.
Time moves on. I got saved. Started going to church. Found several good friends. Same scenario. I could call any number of them up and go do something. It could be a movie, going out to eat, going to somebody’s house to watch a movie. Now, the crowd was more mixed. I was in my late thirties.
Fast forward to today. I am in my early forties. I call up a friend. A friend that had no problems, just a few years ago, jumping in his or her car and meeting someplace, but nooo. Today, I hear things thru the phone like, “Honey, can I go over to Bro Mark’s?” or “Honey, do you mind if I go to the show with Bro Mark?” or “Bro Mark wants to go get something to eat, do you wanna go? . . . Can I go?” What?!
What has happened to being the man of the household? All I get these days is a bunch of whiney-butt responses from guys that have to beg their wives to go to a movie or to go get something to eat. I would mind too much if it was once in a while, but come on guys grow a pair! You are supposed to be the head of the household! Act like it!
Someone told me once that I need to make my own fun. Well, I try to but it usually works better when there is more than just me. Considering that all of my people / friends now act like old farts or fuddy-duddies. Yes they all got married and now have a ball and chain. You think that is a euphemism? Not on you life. Too many times I have been shot down to have some fun because of a spouse.
I don’t know. To me it seems like a complete waste of time resources and just about everything else when you get married. Nothing is fun anymore. You can’t do anything with out permission. All of your money is gone before you even see it.
I actually watched a guy look at a pair of sunglasses at the SunGlass Hut at Oakwood Mal before the hurricane. They were nice Oakley’s. He put them on. He admired himself in those little mirrors they have. He opened his wallet, realized that he did not have enough cash to purchase them. He called to his wife and asked if he could put the glasses on the credit card. She asked how much were they. He handed the glasses back to the clerk and walked off. After he left I check on the price of the glasses. They were $60. The look of disappointment in his face will remain with me for, probably a long time. But, anyway. I bought the glasses that he was looking at. Caught up to him while his wife was in Things Remembered. I handed them to him and said to him, “These are for you. If the reason that you could not get them was because of financial reasons, I am truely sorry, and here this is a blessing from me to you. But, if not, well you need to figure it out, but still take them a s blessing from me to you.”
This young man had the courage to say to me, “It’s not financial. It’s just that she. . . Thank you. Thank you very much.” And he walked away into Things Remembered wearing those Oakleys.
I lost this one. I won’t loose another one.
So, now a days, most of my friends are half my age. At least their only excuse is that they are broke.
Please don’t take this as that I am against being married, but I think that if you plan on getting married you need to let your single friends know that the friendship is over. We are now just acquaintances. The same goes for the single person. If you have friends that are getting married you better be prepared to give them up and move on to new friends because you will never see them again without a ball and chain or a rug rat or a couple of crumb crunchers attached at the hip or leg. You can’t have them over because the little curtain climbers can’t keep their hands off of stuff. Wait. Maybe I am against marriage and having kids and stuff.
Well, all I know is what St. Paul said that it was better to be like him. That is, single or unmarried. His reasoning was so that as a minister of the Gospel fo Christ, you could go unimpeded. However, he also said, that if you burn with passion, really lusting after the flesh (women), you need to be married.
Marriage is a good thing. So is being single. Let me get outta here before I shove my foot all the way down my throat.
